Let's be honest: most of us sit in the exam room, nod politely, and are mostly just relieved to walk out with a prescription in hand. And when it comes to sexual health, we tend to swallow our questions rather than say them out loud.
But your doctor is there to support you, not to judge you. An open conversation is one of the best ways to reduce uncertainty and helps you stay in control of your own body. These are questions you should definitely ask at your next check-up.
1. Which STIs are we actually testing for today?
Many people assume that a blood test or urine sample automatically tests for “everything.” Spoiler: it almost never does. A standard check-up often only covers a fraction of the possible infections.
Why it matters: Syphilis, chlamydia, or gonorrhea are often only included if you specifically ask for them. Be proactive and ask for screening that fits your lifestyle and individual situation.
2. How high is my personal risk?
There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to sexual health. Your risk depends on many factors: the number of sexual partners you have, the types of sex you have, and whether you use condoms or PrEP for protection.
Why it matters: The more openly you talk about your sex life, the better your doctor can assess how often you should get tested and which vaccinations, such as HPV or hepatitis vaccines, might make sense for you.
3. Does my contraception still suit me?
Bodies change. What worked perfectly for you at 20 might no longer fit your hormones, needs, or lifestyle at 30.
Why it matters: Whether you’re dealing with side effects from the pill, have questions about an IUD, or are considering a hormone-free alternative, your contraception should work for your life, not get in the way of it.
4. I’ve noticed something. Is this normal?
Unusual itching, changes in discharge, or pain during sex? Many people wait to see whether symptoms disappear on their own.
Why it matters: Often, the cause is something relatively harmless, such as a yeast infection or bacterial vaginosis, which can usually be treated quickly. The sooner you ask, the sooner you can get the right treatment and feel better again.
5. Which vaccines can protect my sexual health?
When most people think about vaccinations, they think of tetanus or the flu. But vaccines can also play an important role in protecting your sexual health.
Why it matters: The HPV vaccine, for example, offers strong protection against cervical cancer and genital warts. Depending on your individual risk profile, vaccinations against hepatitis A and B may also be recommended.
A small tip for your appointment
Write your questions down on your phone beforehand. Between nerves and time pressure, it’s easy to forget half of them once you’re there. It’s your appointment and your time, so make the most of it.
And what if the conversation feels uncomfortable?
If you notice that your concerns are being dismissed or you don’t feel taken seriously, take that as a clear signal: find a healthcare provider who is a better fit for you. An open, non-judgmental environment is the foundation of good healthcare.
Not in the mood for a waiting room?
Some things are simply easier to deal with privately. If what you’re looking for is clarity about STIs, you don’t necessarily have to wait for an appointment or answer personal questions face-to-face. With our at-home STI tests, you can get professional laboratory results conveniently from home, with no small talk required.
Knowledge is power, especially when it comes to your own body. Ask the questions that are on your mind. You have a right to answers.
